Christmas Wishes

Love; Love; and Love – this is the backbone of Christianity. True Christians celebrate Christmas as a Festival of Joy; Co-operation; Co-ordination; Getting Together; and Rejoice as a crowd to express their love and affection towards one and all.

The ideal ways of celebrating Christmas are –

* Christmas Trees: Beautifully decorated Christmas Trees placed in front of your house, spread the joy of Christmas to passers-by. Unlike the olden days, when real Christmas Trees caused allergies to your pets and children, you can buy ready-made artificial Christmas Trees with full decoration of lighting. Place it till the New Year eve – your Christmas will be memorable.

* Observation of Religious Traditions: Most families attend Church and participate in the mass for all the 40 Advent Days leading upto Christmas. If not possible, don’t miss the Midnight Mass at your Church. A divine atmosphere with music and songs will go a long way in getting back your mental peace.

* Christmas Cards: Sending Christmas Cards is the best way of expressing your love to one and all. Some families send a group photo of all the family members, sign it and send across. You have excellent Christmas Cards freely available online. Make best use of them. The cards can be sent using the Season between Christmas and New Year.

* Gifts: During the entire festive season exchange of Gifts is most prevalent in the entire world. Select a Gift for each one of your family members and friends and enjoy the glee in their eyes when receiving. It is not the worth of the Gift that matter, but the Love and Affection behind it. Your children may be encouraged to prepare a Gift List – colorful, imaginative and writing why they want or how they deserve these Gifts – and let them send it to Santa Claus. You know when to give them when they are sleeping.

* Yankee Swaps: This is sharing Gifts among larger families and friends. Gathering at a place all the Gifts are put together, each member takes out a number from a hat and takes that numbered Gift. It will be great fun for two things – one you mingle with others happily and two you get a Gift.

* Food: Christmas celebration will never be complete without choice Dinner at home or a Restaurant. Better invite your friends for a happy dinner and relish the recipes joyfully in their company.

* Forgive and Forget: Christmas is an ideal occasion to regain friendship with estranged friends. Repent your action, if you have offended others in any way and you will become great by accepting your mistakes and asking for pardon. Similarly, forgive those who have offended you and extend your hand of amity again.

* Charity: When you are rejoicing with every one on the occasion of Christmas – remember your fellow human beings who can’t afford and give what you can for Charity. There is no other noble way of getting the Blessings of the Almighty.

When it comes to finding love, some truisms are part of the rulebook, almost irrefutable. Fed on a healthy diet of rom-coms, laws of attraction are governed more by what we see and hear than what we experience! “Every couple varies and so do the rules of love.” Yet old habits die hard. But a new age needs new rules…

THEN: you can tell if you’re truly attracted to someone in 3 seconds.

NOW: Wrong! It takes at least 3 dates. Love at first sight can save you time but a 3-date minimum is needed to build up rapport.

THEN: Your mate must need all criteria on your ‘must list’.

NOW: A ‘must list’ won’t keep you warm at night. You aren’t building a lover in a lab. Set doable standards.

THEN: Opposites attract.

NOW: Opposites distract. Think about it… If you don’t want the same thing for the future, what kind of future willl you have? Of course, this doesn’t mean that you should date your clone! Same tastes don’t spark off chemistry but similar does it. That’s when your horizons expand….

THEN: A couple must stay together 24×7.

NOW: Yikes! That’s the surest first step towards Splitsville. Couples now want a life beyond the coosome twosome. So there will be ‘your pals’, ‘my pals’ and ‘our pals’. And a fair amount of unquestioned freedom to follow pursuits like travel, pubbing and hanging out with your exclusive mates. Space is the buzzword!

THEN: Your first kiss should be a toe-curling experience.

NOW: Nah! Ever since our first fairy tale, the poor first kiss has had too much pressure on it. The reasons for a good/bad kiss are many. Let them not seal the fate of your relationship.

THEN: When its true love, you think about the person constantly.

NOW: When its true love, thinking about the person makes you feel good! Constantly, endlessly thinking about another person is not love, its infatuation!

THEN:

Now:

THE HOT SURVEY

Love at first sight exists…

NO            70%

YES           30%

Honey has Money…

YES 65%

NO 35%

PDA is…

COOL 75%

UNCOOL 25%

Love = Marriage

NO WAY    62%

YES           38%

What makes a man eligible?

MONEY      65%

ATTITUDE  20%

LOOKS       15%

What makes a woman eligible?

LOOKS       55%

ATTITUDE  25%

FREEDOM   20%

Are you scared to commit?

YES           75%

NO            25%

Good Sex = Better relationship

YES           85%

NO            15%

“Now, you see married couples staying in the same house but in different rooms. Or unmarried couples taking the live-in route. It’s healthy, for they respect each other’s independence and individuality. In fact, modern-day couples are more adjusting and accommodating.”

Do you think same?? If No, then reply WHY??

Sometime it’s the things you don’t say that are the most important.

As people spend more time together, even years, they can easily take each other for granted, and perhaps neglect those special moments that were so carefully chosen when they first began seeing each other.

If you believe that you have started to take your partner or friends for granted, there are many things you can do to reinvigorate those special times, and it doesn’t have to be the things you say.  For many people giving something extra thought can make all the difference, actions are often remembered way beyond a few words.  Here are a few suggestions:

1.  Post a note.  If you have ever found a little note left for you, often in an unusual place, then it comes as a real surprise.  You know that whilst you were out, or busy doing something, your partner was busy thinking of you.  Leave them a note on the kettle or the bedroom mirror…we’ve all heard of children writing ditties with the fridge magnets, try it for yourself, it will be appreciated.

2.  Hugs mean a lot.  The physical affection of a hug can go a long way to saying so many words of affection, without uttering a sound.  We should all have been on the receiving end of an unexpected hug, and you will remember how nice it felt, just to be hugged.

3.  Poems are romance.  It doesn’t matter if you aren’t the Poet Laureate; it really is the thought that counts.  Write a few well thought through lines that come from the heart.  Lyrics that are corny may have the opposite effect so it may be wise to avoid standard lines about roses being red and violets blue… just be genuine.

4. Surprise them with a present.  Presents don’t have to big and expensive, they are always best received if they have been given thought rather than just had money thrown at them.  A surprise gift is always well received and is an equal joy for the giver, so buy a small bunch of flowers or a box of chocolates just to show you care.

5.  Household chores.  Romantic gestures don’t always have to involve carpeting the floor in fresh rose petals.  If your partner always does the washing up then surprise them by doing it yourself for once, without being prompted.  If they come home to find you vacuuming the living room they will be in a better mood instantly.  Make their day better by doing a small thing yourself.

6.  Take their hand.  How many times have you walked down the High Street doing some shopping and you could as well be two good friends, and not life time partners.  Gently take their hand, it will instantly make them feel loved and appreciated; to know that you want everyone else to know that you are together.  It requires no effort, no cost, just a tiny little thought, and it will go a long way.

7.  Cook them a meal.  Especially if your partner does all the cooking, they will be so happy to have you make a meal for them.  If you are feeling adventurous, or are already a talent in the kitchen then go the extra mile and make a special meal, but in fairness, if your partner has a dinner prepared for them they will be so grateful.  Just make sure you don’t destroy the kitchen in the process!

8.  Look good.  When you first met you were both so aware of how you looked when you were going to meet the other person; you spent time choosing your clothes, brushing your hair and perhaps even putting on some smelly aftershave or perfume.  How many times a week do you do it now?  Don’t worry if the answer is hardly ever, you are not alone.  Once again, making that special effort will almost never go unnoticed, and will always be appreciated.

9.  Massage.  After a hard day at work, everyone wants to settle down in the evening with a hot cup of coffee or tea and relax.  That relaxation is made so much the more enjoyable if an unexpected back or shoulder rub comes out of nowhere.  You just know that your partner wants to do everything they can to relax you and make you happy, and once again, the best thing is that it doesn’t cost a penny; it is only a thoughtful romantic action.

10.  Listen.  Often quoted as one of the greatest skill in life, we are all guilty of just nodding and carrying on watching the TV or reading the book.  To feel ignored is to feel lonely, but to be truly listened to makes you feel valued, wanted and loved.  Listening needs practice and is something we can all get better at.  Once thing is for sure, if you listen carefully, it will be truly appreciated.